Nikki Dharma Dog

Whew, had to take a break after that last post. I guess it's pretty obvious now, that all dogs are dharma dogs. They have so much to teach us about life, about ourselves. It was really more about the level of my own Buddhist practice that I began to call Nikki the dharma dog, and not any of the dogs before. And while our morning outings have taken us to places of quietude and contemplation, it was my relationship with Nikki - and the way it unfolded - that made me recognize him as the dharma dog.

For the longest time, Nikki lived in the shadow of Kaleo, even as I hated to admit it, I held back my affection and became disappointed when unrealistic and unfair expectations were placed on him. It took a huge effort to see Nikki for himself and not as a failed replacement for Kaleo. Eventually, mindful persistence and discipline paid off. I began to appreciate and see him as a beautiful dog totally in his own right. And with with Nikki's patience and generosity we managed to form a special bond that is uniquely our own. 

Kaleo

Kaleo is my favorite dog of all time. Yes, I admit it. Yes, we're not supposed to have favorites, but it happens. You can't will it away, or dismiss it based on some sort of "thought correctness." Truth is, some sentient beings resonate with us more deeply than others -  be it a child, a pet or a life partner. It has to do with our karma. And so it is that Kaleo touched me more deeply than any dog so far. The grief and despair I felt at his passing was greater than any I've experienced - for dog or human.

I've always felt that Kaleo and I had known each other in a previous life. With those piercing eyes, I felt the stare of my ancestors. I felt the connection to memory from a long, long time ago. But it wasn't the memory of the mind, but of the heart and soul. And due to fortune or karma, we were brought together again, perhaps, as reward for good behavior. 

Why, then, were we separated again so soon? Is it really true that all good things don't last? Was it to teach me about impermanence, about loss? To prepare me for even greater losses up ahead? There are, of course, no definitive answers, suffice it to keep the thoughts in mind, for when situations do arise, I would be better prepared to do what I have to do. And ever since I buried him, I've felt much more at peace with his passing. I am deeply grateful.

Trina and Kaleo

Trina brought us so much joy from day one. My mother was still living with us then, and when Trina came into our home for the first time, she went straight to my mother and put her head in her lap and looked up at her with those big, pleading brown eyes. Mom was instantly won over.

Trina has always been such a good girl - we never had to house train her. In the ten years since we've had her, she has had only one "accident" and that was because she was sick. She always came when called and before long, we were letting her run off leash. 

She loved playing with other dogs - "stalking" them from distance, then making a last minute dash toward them with "no-holds" exuberance. But what she really loved was being chased and boy, did she own that game! She had a thing or two to show the guys in football - how to make it through the best defense with lightning quick fakes to the left, then right, left again, getting low to the ground for the sharpest turns, then circling around so she ended up chasing the chaser! She was so good other dogs soon gave up playing with her. They didn't stand a chance.

Because Mom was getting on in age, she could not spend the kind of active time with Trina. When Karen thought out loud about getting another dog to keep Trina company, it was all I needed to hit the internet dog search. I had actually always liked Huskies, so I thought this time, I would get one. I found one posted by a Northern dogs rescue organization in Salinas, CA. It was love at first sight. I made arrangements to see the dog and brought Trina with me to make sure it will be one she liked. And for her, it was love at first sight, as well. She and Kaleo (called Nohea then) hit it off right away, and it was like, " Can we take him home, Daddy, can we, can we? Ple-e-e-ase!"

Well, it took a couple of days for me to finally decide, as I wasn't sure about having two dogs in the house. But, of course, you know I was going to bring him home. As it turned out, they became the best buddies ever... and no trouble whatsoever.

Trina

Okay, okay! Dharma dog bugged me enough to get back to posting. Said he got tired of sub'ing for me. Can't blame him... Now... where was I? Oh yeah, just before I left for Vancouver I was supposed to tell Trina's story. 

Vancouver, by the way, was great. I rode the Gran Fondo Whistler and managed to finish in a decent time - nothing to brag about, but I did finish. Then, typically when we're up there, wifey and I ate our way through Vancouver. Much as I enjoyed it, I'm glad to be back. And be with my "kids" again. Been retreating into the garden - pruning, replanting and making myself a meditation station to do daily sitting at sunrise.

So... about Trina. I found Trina online - Petfinders.com, I think. She lived in Sacramento, so wifey, i.e., Karen and I drove out there "just to look." It was a bit soon after Tybone had died, but I decided that getting a new dog, while it replaced a hole in my heart, will never replace the dog. There will always a place for Tybone. 

Trina lived in a foster home with about a dozen other dogs with this lady who had a couple of acres around her house in rural Sacramento. I had called ahead, so when we got there the lady called out to Trina. She had a different name then. She was named "America," as everyone was still reeling from the shock and aftermath of 9/11. So, even before she came to us, Trina was already a healer and a heart-mender. I didn't know then that she was to play that role two times - first was, of course, after Tybone's passing, but just five years later, a second time after we lost our beloved Kaleo.

 
Trina was two when we brought her home on Valentine's Day in 2002. We named her Trina during the drive home. Soon, I was also referring to her as the Princess of Hearts, and what a sweetheart she is! Just as the saying goes, she "wears her heart on her sleeve." She's the most openly giving and loving dog ever. She does not hold back. She was also full of surprises. The first time a fire engine went by the house, Karen and I were shocked when Trina leaned back on her haunches and began howling with all her might. She does not hold back!

It took years for us to find out that Trina is an Icelandic sheepdog and this propensity for howling is a typical characteristic of the breed. All along, we had been told she's part Golden Retriever and part Shepherd. This was easy to see, though we were constantly guessing at which of the shepherds, but when I ran across a dog that could have been her twin, I found out, for the first time, about Icelandic Sheep dogs and realized that this must be what Trina is. 

Shepherd, sheep dog - whatever you call it, Trina is definitely protective, vigilant and territorial. And she has no interest in chasing after balls, let alone retrieving them.

There's so much to tell about Trina, her story would have to be told on a continuous basis. So for now, just take a llok at early pictures of her. Oh, and her other nickname is "Sweetie pie."

Ty

Hey, look at these old pictures Pops found while cleaning out his man cave! This is Ty. His full name was Tyrone but he was usually called Ty... and then Mom's started calling him "Tybone" and that kinda stuck. 

Tybone was adopted from the SPCA back in '95. Moms and Pops went there to look for a cat... a CAT! WTF! Moms doesn't like cats (Yay Moms!) but she relented when Pops wouldn't stop moaning and groaning about it. Then, for some reason they decided to look at dogs while they were there and Pops fell in love with the dog.

"It was those big brown eyes," Pops said. "I've never seen such soulful eyes on a dog or a human!"

Tybone was the sweetest dog with people, Pops said, but he had real issues with other dogs. He just went berserko every time he saw another dog, so walking him was very hard, although in those days there weren't that many dogs in the neighborhood. They never knew why or how he got that way. The SPCA folks even warned Moms and Pops about this but they decided to take him anyway. You know Poops was in love with that dog! "We'll deal with it," he said.

Tybone was real smart. Pops said it didn't take but once for him to say, "Your name is 'Ty'  for him to understand. (Took me a while to get used to being called "Nikki!") Then, when Pops and Moms were talking and didn't want Ty to know they were saying the word, "treat,'" they would spell it out. After just that one time, Ty knew what "T-R-E-A-T" meant! But... poor Ty, Moms and Pops didn't know much about dogs back then. He was Pops' first dog. And with Ty's hate-other-dogs problem, he could never be let off leash. Ty didn't get to run around like I do. 

Pops was heart-broken when Ty died. They didn't knw he had a tumor in him, but one night, it got so big it burst his spleen. Moms and Pops woke up to a real sick dog. Ty went into the garden and hid under some bushes way in the back of the garden.  Pops said he kinda panicked. He dug Tybone out from under the bush and carried him upstairs through the house and into the car and drove him to the vet. The vet was dealing with another emergency, so he put Ty in a crate in the back for observation. At that point no one knew what was wrong. There was nothing for Pops to do but go home and wait. Then, a phone call came. The vet said, "Ty passed."

Pops was not only sad that he lost Ty but he was sorry that he didn't just sit with Ty by the bush and waited with him. Instead, Ty was left to die all alone in a strange place. If he only knew that Ty was going to die anyway he wouldn't have put poor Ty through all that trauma in his last moments. Pops vowed to never let any dog of his go like that again.

A few months later, on Valentine's Day in 2002, Moms and Pops brought Trina home. I'll let him tell you that story.

I'm ba-a-a-ck!

 

Hey - Hey! The D Dog is back! Just two days into the restart and Pops got sick! There's lots to say but he said his head feels like an over-ripe melon so I said I would sub for him. He's got this big ride coming up in Vancouver next week - the Gran Fondo Whistler, or some funny name like that. He's supposed to have been training a long time ago but he waited till the last minute. So now, each time he tries to "whip himself into shape", he gets sick! Bummer! But, that just means more time with me! Cool!

Hey did you see his new book of photographs of me and all the cool places we've been to? All my friends say, "You lucky dog!" 

I say luck's got nothing to do with it. If it weren't for me, Pops wouldn't have even gone to all those places. Well, OK, we're both lucky. Lucky to have each other.

"A man is a dog's best friend," so they say, but some people are pretty messed up, like my previous "owner" - he dumped me in the street and didn't even want me back after Animal Control found me. Imagine that! What did I ever do to him?! I know I would never leave my friends. I would never leave Pops. In fact, sometimes, when I roam too far and lose sight of Pops, I get a little panicky, know what I mean? But he always whistles to let me know where he is and boy, am I glad to hear that whistle blow! I just run as fast as I can to get back to him.

 

Pops says we're fellow travelers in life, and we help each other with our karma. He says because I'm a dog and he's a human, he's responsible for my karma too, to make sure I get a good reincarnation after I die. Pretty intense stuff. Half of the time I don't even know what he's talking about. He's funny that way.


Whoa! I just looked out the window and fog just rolled in - "with a vengeance," as Pops likes to say. When I started posting, it was all blue sky and sunshine! Go figure! It's San Francisco! See y'all soon! xoxo (= lick lick).

 

Restart, continued...

Today I restarted meditation. I'm a Buddhist, but a lazy one. Meditation does wonders for me, yet I'm too undisciplined to do it every day. A few years ago, I did it pretty regularly, mainly because I had a meditation partner. His name was Kaleo (Hawaiian name, pronounced ka-LAY-o).

Every morning, while I washed up, Kaleo would wait for me in front of the Buddha shrine, next to my mediation pillow. When I sat down, I would stroke his head and say, "What a good dog! What a beautiful spirit! I'm so glad you came into my life!" And with that, Kaleo would be be so happy. He would turn his head to smile and look at me with loving eyes. Then I'd say, "OK, let's get started," and he would curl up behind me and go to sleep while I sat, counting my breath.

After he died prematurely from cancer, I stopped sitting every morning. I built a memorial to him in the garden. (See related post, July 15, 2009). It was set in front of his favorite spot. He loved freshly dug-up dirt, and since I was doing the landscaping at the time, I built a dog rest for him and our other dog Trina. Trina and Kaleo were the best of friends and, you know what? The moment the memorial was complete, Trina came and laid down in front of it for almost the whole morning. Although I did not bury him there, I could see she felt his presence.

That was in 2007. Fast forward to now. Recently, Trina has made a routine of hanging out in the garden after dinner, sometimes needing repeated calls and cajoling to get her to come back in from the dark. One day, out of frustration, I went down to get her. As I approached, she ran ahead and led me to Kaleo's memorial and looked behind it through the fence, as if looking into the distance. She was obviously seeing something I didn't.

I had always wondered if she went down every night to be with Kaleo's spirit, and now it was getting downright spooky. Still, it wasn't till the next morning when I realized that she was trying to tell me something specific, like, bringing a message from Kaleo. And the message was that Kaleo wanted to be out there, not in a box on the shelf in my room upstairs.

Of course! I thought to myself. I was clinging to a false memory of Kaleo that was essentially a selfish act. It was time to let go and set Kaleo's spirit free, to let him go on his natural journey. I knew what I had to do.

I buried Kaleo's ashes directly in the ground, mixed with the soil that he so loved. I covered it with more soil and planted lilies, baby's tears, blue grass and cylamen. Yesterday morning, I burned some incense to send him off and sat for a while to soak in his presence. And today, I resumed daily meditation, except now it takes place in the garden, in full presence of Kaleo's spirit.

Yeah - spirits, animal communication - I can feel it, and if I feel it, it must be true.